Friday, May 11, 2012
Weighing in on the Time Magazine Cover
So when I saw the cover my jaw dropped, just like yours.
Here is why:
That is not what breastfeeding looks like. Anyone who has ever breastfed or been around someone breastfeeding a baby child knows this. Everything about the photo looks like it was directly influenced by the person behind the camera...
I can see it now,
"Lets put your son on a chair here...
now look at me and don't smile. Put your hand on your hip...
Son, look into the camera over here, let your hands hang to your sides, there you go..."
We have a photo that can be over-sexualized reaaaal quick and a woman who looks defiant. And with the headline "ARE YOU MOM ENOUGH?" well, she is looking self-righteous too.
Because I like to believe the best in people.
So I promptly went to her blog and started reading everything she wrote about breastfeeding.
You know what I found?
She is not self-righteous. Not in the least. In fact I would assume that if she knew what that photo would look like and knew what the headline to her story would be she wouldn't have agreed to it at all. Ya'll, she has an entire blog post dedicated to being an advocate for Moms who formula feed, almost scolding women who say hurtful things about it. This woman is graceful, understanding, an advocate for Mothers in general whatever route they decide in parenting, not just attachment parenting Moms who extend breastfeeding into childhood.
I think she was trying to help us breastfeeding Moms. Trying to forge ahead and be brave and show the world that breastfeeding is NOT weird. It is NOT gross.
Sadly, I think Time Magazine had other plans - selling magazines.
So now it feels like we have just taken steps backward instead of forward. Now all those people who give us dirty looks while we are feeding our infant under a nursing cover in a discreet corner of a department store have got fuel added to their ignorant fire. Not to mention Mommy-Wars.
I can only hope that people read her words in the actual article and that some even take it a step farther and read her blog. That way they can see past the sensational cover that, to me, has nothing to do with what this woman was actually trying to do or say.